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    Author: Anne Power

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    What is the secret of a long and contented marriage? Anne Power sits down with eighteen contented couples to discuss how they found each other and what made it work. Almost all the couples interviewed had faced major challenges along the way – but their attachment grew and relationships survived. In this book they tell us why.

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    Publication Date

    May 2022

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    What is the secret of a long and contented marriage? In Contented Couples, Anne Power interviews eighteen couples in the USA and the UK to discuss how they found each other and what made it work. A wide range of couples are featured – non-binary, homosexual, heterosexual – some brought together by family for arranged marriage, others by pure chance, and those set up by friends or by using dating agencies or the internet.

    Power is trained in emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT) and she takes a rounded, constructive look at the different traditions couples form and live by. Questions she puts to new couples in therapy are used here: What does an argument look like? How has sex been across the years? Who has grown up the most over your time together? What has stopped you from becoming a divorce statistic? Throughout the book, she weaves expert, jargon-free explanations of how couples form a bond, how they fight, and how they repair. Each chapter ends with questions which invite us to reflect on our own relationships and to benefit personally from this chance to eavesdrop on contented couples. This empowers us to think about what constitutes the essence of a contented couple.

    An ideal book for psychotherapists working with individuals, couples, and families, as well as the general reader looking for greater insight into what makes a successful, long-term relationship.

    About the author

    About the author

    Anne Power has an MA in History and was a nurse before studying attachment theory at The Bowlby Centre. After qualifying in couples work with Relate she trained in emotionally focused couple therapy (EFT). She has published papers on attachment and one book Forced Endings: Attachment and Loss in Retirement. She has contributed to oral history projects and sees her interviewing and story-collecting as borrowing from that tradition. After working for twenty-five years with clients in difficulty, she wanted to hear from contented couples.

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    Contents

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    The couples
    Introduction

    1. What makes a ‘good enough’ marriage?
    2. Attachment and the couple bond
    3. Random romance – looks like magic
    4. Arranged marriage – looks like logic but could be magic
    5. Self-arranged marriage – can lay claim to magic and logic
    6. Selection
    7. Staying power
    8. Support and challenge
    9. Fighting, money and sex
    10. Conclusion

    Appendix I: How this study was conducted
    Appendix II: What have we learned which could be helpful to single people?
    Glossary
    References
    Further reading
    Index

    Anne Power's TEDx Talk

    Anne Power's TEDx Talk

    8 reviews for Contented Couples: Magic, Logic or Luck?

    1. Linda Bloom, LCSW, co-author of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married: Simple Lessons to Make Love Last – 18/10/2023

      ‘The strength of Power’s work lies in the diversity of the population she has interviewed. With the multiple racial, ethnic, economic and lifestyles represented, she delivers on her commitment to illustrating how couples can arrive at contentment. This book is a guide for couples that desire to deepen and expand the fulfilment of their partnerships.’

    2. Christopher Clulow, PhD, Consultant Couple Psychotherapist and Senior Fellow of the Tavistock Institute of Medical Psychology – 18/10/2023

      ‘Anne Power is a sensitive and respectful guide in enabling eighteen couples to describe how they navigated the ordinary challenges of coming together and making a success of their relationships. Through the wisdom accrued as a therapist, she distils their stories into a treatise on the nature of love. This is a valuable resource for anyone considering commitment, anyone in a committed relationship wishing to understand more about their experience, and anyone whose role is to try and help them to do so.’

    3. Dr Kathryn Rheem, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Trainer, Co-Founder of the EFT Cafe – 18/10/2023

      ‘Anne Power has written an elegant, comprehensive book about coupling […] Anne’s writing is captivating and so easy to fall into, just like some (but not all) relationships. The experiences of real-life couples and Anne’s compassion take you on a lovely journey of imaginative possibilities, while grounding you in the science of how and why love works. The confluence of magic, logic and luck come alive! Read this book to grow yourself and your relationship.’

    4. Susie Orbach, psychoanalyst and author of The Impossibility of Sex – 18/10/2023

      ‘Listening in to couples that thrive, who enjoy, trust and continue to develop is rare. Therapists tend to write about what needs changing, not what works. It is warming to hear these accounts of closeness in which obstacles are managed and which bring growth to both people.’

    5. Raksha Pande, author of Learning to Love: Arranged Marriages and the British Indian Diaspora – 18/10/2023

      ‘Anne Power provides a diverse cross-cultural perspective on the elusive mixture of magic, logic and luck that is involved in the making of a happy marriage […] Covering a range of marriage styles – from random romance to self-arranged marriages – this book shows how an initial spark of attraction can be transformed into an ever-glowing cosy fire that sustains a long-term relationship. A ‘must read’ for anyone who has ever wondered what makes a marriage work!’

    6. Felicia Smith-Kleiner, integrative psychotherapist, New Psychotherapist, Summer 2023 – 18/10/2023

      ‘For the lay reader and professional alike, this book outlines what each partner in a couple can do, offering reflections and implicit suggestions based on decades of experience. Each chapter ends with a series of questions Power encourages partners to consider, paving a path for greater understandings of the self, partner and couple dynamics.’

    7. Mo Perkins, integrative psychotherapist and supervisor, BACP Therapy Today, Feb 2024 – 22/10/2024

      ‘You’re in for a treat with this beautifully written and well-researched book. Reading the stories of the 18 self-selecting couples was heart-warming and interesting and offered an intimate peek into the relationships of successful loving partnerships. […] It’s a very comprehensive study looking at a wide range of factors leading to the satisfaction and longevity of each couple. […] I loved how the participants’ own words, humour, personal challenges and growth a woven throughout the text. […] This is a delightfully fascinating read, whether you’re a couples of individual therapist, part of a loving, intimate relationship of a singleton. There’s potential learning for everyone within the pages of this very meaningful book.’

    8. Tanvi Kankan, Attachment – 16/12/2024

      ‘This is a very valuable piece of research and writing, accessible to more than just the therapist or mental health professional but an interested lay reader too. I have a particular appreciation for how much the author did let us hear directly from the participants through the conversation excerpts. It is remarkable to have recorded and distilled these couples’ stories, thoughts, and descriptions on how they have found contentment in their long-term relationships and I believe it can be very useful to many.’

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